Peer Mentorships: Nurturing Professional Growth and Camaraderie

By: Becky Petty, CP APMP

Outstanding television series often feature robust supporting characters, such as in Seinfeld, Game of Thrones, Mad Men, and many others. The most memorable lines and gripping moments don’t occur in isolation; they typically transpire between two characters, providing the audience with a deeper understanding of their dynamic. This principle holds true for characters with various relationships, whether they are romantic partners, closest friends or professional partners.

When we think of “work partners,” iconic duos like Meredith and Cristina from Grey’s Anatomy, Walter and Jesse from Breaking Bad, Sookie and Lorelai from Gilmore Girls, or Rachel and Donna from Suits immediately come to mind. While the TV portrayals might be somewhat idealized, the concept of an office companion adds a layer of complexity and richness, both for the TV viewer and for real-life colleagues navigating the daily grind. This is the first person you turn to after hearing the company is being bought by private equity, when someone reheats fish in the microwave (again), or when you’re drowning in deadlines and could use an extra pair of hands.

A More Modern Approach

The term “work spouses” is often used to describe these special workplace relationships, but it’s essential to recognize that the term (along with “work wife”) can be perceived as misogynistic. There are alternative ways to describe the supportive and collaborative nature of this kind of relationship without implying a romantic or spousal connection. The term “professional partner” emphasizes the professional aspect of the relationship while still conveying the idea of a trusted partner.

This rephrasing also reduces the potential for confusion and misinterpretation, aligning more closely with today’s evolving dynamics and workplace relationships. Certainly, there are alternative terms we can use to replace “work spouse” while still capturing the essence of a close, supportive workplace relationship. I asked ChatGPT to cook up a few options depending on the specific nuances of the relationship and the culture of your workplace:

• Work Bestie: A more casual term, this phrase conveys a close friendship at work while avoiding any romantic implications.
• Office/Work Companion: A straightforward term that underscores the idea of having a close companion at work, without implying a romantic connection.
• Work Ally: This term emphasizes the supportive and collaborative nature of the relationship, focusing on how the individuals work together as a united front.
• Desk Mate: This phrase implies a close colleague with whom you share a workspace and have a strong connection. It highlights the proximity and bond developed from working side by side.
• Cubicle Confidant: If you both work in cubicles, this term highlights the close relationship that can develop in such close quarters.
• Colleague Comrade: This term underscores the camaraderie and teamwork aspect of the relationship.
• Business Buddy: This phrase highlights the friendship and collaborative nature of the relationship within the workplace.
• Office Mentor: If the relationship involves a significant mentorship component, this term could be appropriate.

Giving Thanks For This Dynamic Relationship

In my own experience, these relationships have always been with peers. We help one another mature in the profession and acclimate to changes in the organization. Our bond is forged on shared long-term objectives and 40+ hours a week. I implicitly trust this person for meaningful advice and to truthfully point out ways I could be more successful. They are the person that spots donuts in the kitchen and tells you first. From a social perspective, this person enriches my work day. From a professional perspective, we motivate one another to constantly elevate our craft.

The duality of shared growth and individual resilience is what makes the work environment so dynamic and rewarding. It’s a testament to our ability to adapt and flourish in various circumstances and teams. These experiences have been instrumental in helping me define my values, encouraging me to tread a path of integrity and professionalism, and for that, I am genuinely appreciative.